At different times in life, we get to a point where we need some help in getting a few steps closer to our goals. However, for most people there is a disconnect. The problem is that many don’t know exactly what they want. In my interaction with people, as well as taking from my own personal experiences, I have found that you can get very little help in life if you don’t know exactly what you want.
If you are not sure what you want or what kind of help you need, you can easily be swayed in any direction. Even though you have a clear goal, you can drift away from your course, and later have to navigate back on track towards achieving your goals, thereby wasting time as well as resources. It is not that people are not willing to help you or that others don’t care about you. As a matter of fact, I have had many people who have loved me and cared about me so much, but could not help me much because I was not quite sure what I wanted in a particular situation. It’s just that many people have issues of their own, and it just works better when they know how best they can help you in your situation without much effort. No body really wants to carry in addition to theirs the burden of another individual.
This is in line with the principle of faith and prayer. If we “pray” without really knowing what we’re asking for or what we’re believing God for, how do we know when He answers? How do we know the signs of God’s working and recognize the opportunities that He places along our path? It is expected that when we pray, we make specific requests to God based on the promises of His Word, because it is being specific that we’re able to earnestly expect the things that we so desire in prayer.
If you happen to be in any situation where you need help, before you go out in search for the assistance, take some time out to clarify what exactly you’re looking for. Define what constitutes help to you. Ask yourself what you need to overcome the hurdle that is before you, and be as specific as you can be yet flexible. The specificity helps you more channel your efforts, and the flexibility is what helps you navigate through the various changes you may encounter.
Evaluate a couple of alternatives and weigh the cost to you versus the benefit. If you find it challenging identifying what you want. Take a pen and paper and begin to write down your thoughts. Writing helps you clarify your thoughts. Do some brainstorming and write ten possible solutions to the challenge that faces you. It may be difficult, but the exercise is well worth it. When you’re done writing, begin to identify and write what resources are available to you in order to make each alternative you have written materialize. Finally write down what sacrifices you will have to make personally.
When all your personal ground work is done, you can go in search of help. This will benefit you and those who you ask for help. When you talk to people, you will know immediately whose skill set or expertise will be of value to you. You will also know what books to buy, what topics to search out, what questions to ask etc. As you identify resources and people who can be of help to you, your clarity on your expectations and desires will help them better focus on a solution and offer relevant assistance where needed.
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